With Trav gone it’s really easy for me to have pity-parties and wallow in my misery. After spending all of last weekend on the couch, I decided it was time for a different outlook on life. I realized the only thing I was accomplishing was deepening the indent in our couch cushions.
While contemplating this post, I flipped onto 20/20 last night which was ironically about the pursuit of happiness. They broke the composition of your well-being and what makes someone happy into percentages. 50% is based solely on genetics, 10% on your environment (money, location, etc.), and 40% you can control using things like prayer, meditation, and positive affirmations (like those Stuart Smalley used to give us on SNL).
So here are some positive things I am focusing on to help strengthen that 40%:
- Time. First and foremost, what is 4 months really? Compared to the conventional army who are currently gone for 15 months, 4 months is nothing. I think the 3RD ID from Savannah will be getting back around the same time as Trav. By then they will have been gone over ONE YEAR longer than him!
- Money. With a kid on the way and me not working next school year, the extra deployment money will really help our situation. It’ll help us finish “paying the man” and getting a little more financially secure. Also, since I seem to lack in the friends department here, social spending won’t be much of an issue.
- Health and exercise. Trav and I are abstaining from libations due to our extenuating circumstances (which is much easier than I thought it’d be). Once this perpetual “flu thing” passes I’m going to pound the pavement more to keep myself in shape throughout the coming months. Those endorphins should help improve my mood too. Trav’s also been doing a good job keeping up with running every day over there. I anticipate he may make his marathon goal sometime in the near future.
- Communication. Trav is usually able to call at night. Right now he’s been going to bed the same time I am despite the 8 hour difference. It’s a good way to end the day for both of us.
- The future. We have a lot of good things to look forward to once Trav gets back. Mainly, moving out of Savannah and adding to our family. By the time Trav gets back we should be finding out if we’re having a girl or boy. Something else to look forward to.
- Family. In February my parents will be swinging by en-route to Florida to catch a cruise. My sister Laura also graciously offered some of her well-deserved vacation time to hang with me at the end of February. The company should help break up the monotony a little.
So, what do I really have to complain about? I have a good life, supportive family and friends, financial security, and a husband who will be coming home sooner rather than later. Maybe I should squeeze some lemons and mix some sugar into that glass and make it a half-full glass of lemonade instead.